My Supports
To me the word support means assisting someone who needs help in whatever way that may be. In my daily life, my supports include my mom, children, and colleagues. My mom and children are always available by phone anytime to talk to and get an objective opinion about something. We share information about what is happening in our lives because we all live in different cities and don't see each other very often. Working with my colleagues, daily interaction gives us opportunities to problem-solve together, share issues, both personal and professional, and during our weekly teacher meeting, we have a chance to get together as a group and talk about issues we have accomplished and issues we will work on as a team. Having these supports provides a feeling of being part of a group, knowing I don't have to face problems alone and that I have others to share good news with. (My cat doesn't seem to care!) If I didn't have these supports, life would be very lonely. Even though I appreciate living alone, having no one to share with would be depressing. I believe everyone needs at least one true relationship in their lives to keep them sane. As I've written before, I don't have a lot of friends but the ones I do have are there when I need them.
The challenge I imagine is moving into a house. I currently live in a second floor apartment but would like to own a home sometime soon. The supports I have now that would help me in this endeavor would be my children. I have two grown sons so they could lift furniture. My daughter and I would be able to pack and lift the lighter things (and give directions). She and I would take care of cleaning the apartment after everything was moved out and paint and prepare the house for moving into. Having my children help me would save me money by not having to hire a moving company and would make the job go a lot faster. It would definitely provide memories for future discussions! If I didn't have grown children to help me, I would have to pack and unpack on my own, hire someone to load and unload the truck, and experience moving into a home of my own by myself. It would definitely take some of the joy away. It's not bad to be single, except in cases like this.
Hi Laurie! I got a lump in my throat when i read about your cat. We had to put our almost 20 year old cat to sleep two weeks ago. We miss him so much. Now that he is gone, I realize that he was a support for me too. The thought of moving makes me break out in hives. It will be wonderful for you to have a home of your own. I wish you luck in finding a place to call home and in calling in the support reinforcements when the time comes. Thanks for your post this week.
ReplyDeleteHi Laurie,
ReplyDeleteYour post made me remember when we moved into our house 15 years ago! My husband said, "We will never move again!" At the time, we had 3 young children. So I watched the kids and he did all the work! I guess it would be easier with grown children, but it sure is a lot of work! My sister recently bought a house and she loved everything about her move. To her it represented freedom (she was newly divorced). She loved doing everything HER way. So I guess it just depends on the individual. I wish you the best in finding the perfect place to call home!
Laurie,
ReplyDeleteI was able to make a lot of personal connections with your post. I loved the comment that you made about your cat. We are currently living without a pet and I honestly miss that relationship with someone or something where they listen, but show you love no matter what. I talk to my 3 year-old daughter, thinking at times she won't understand and surprisingly, her responses are spot on with making me "keep it real". My husband and I are also looking to move to a house soon. We will be outgrowing our 2 bedroom apartment soon and I've already started the packing process. I hate the physical and emotional stress that comes with moving. Good luck with your move!
Tiffany B.